After doing the big chop I got a lot of reactions and more "not so nice" than anything else. I mean I knew I would get reactions but I also sort of wished no one would notice. I wish no one would blink twice but if anything the opposite happened. I was prepared for it or maybe I wasn't.
I get it. I am a "classic" girl I am not the edgy rebellion type. I have worn my hair straight and in pony tails for 29 years. For the most part straight, curling iron curls/wave, a ponytail and a messy bun was my signature look. So I know this is huge difference for me. Hello! I am the girl who didn't even like trimming her ends!
Ppl are treating my cut like its a pink elephant not sure how to bring it up and when it's brought up its to let me know how they don't like it as if I asked them. Or to point out how "unattractive" my hair is.
If I am honest I don't care for my fro and I often run my hands through my hair looking for my pony tail but you know what I don't care if I don't like a short cut because my heart loves it. My heart feels so brave and courageous, it feels at peace. It feels like for once it did something for itself. My heart is elated because my hair hid so many beautiful features like my eyes, the freckles on my face, the shape of my brows, my lips.
My hair took from that and now all focus is on me and me only. I made a move for a healthier hair and instead of ppl taking note that she is doing something for herself and a healthier move they felt the need to ask my husband if "do you really like it?"
So umm Mom, you mean to tell me my husband only married me because I had straight hair?!? My relationship is based off hair? Are you telling me mom that I am only beautiful or wanted with long hair?!! And maybe I know that's not what you mean but that's what your saying. (My mom is a good woman who means well but she wasn't alone with the comments she was one of my best example).
I eat salad when I want to be healthier and lose weight,everyone is applauding and saying this is the best thing to do. I cut my hair for a healthy more true to me look and I got a "umm what are you doing?!?
I decided to chop of my hair and try this. I wanted to see what natural curls look and feel. I also told myself If I don't like it I can always go back.
I don't regret it. I feel powerful but sometimes someone will make me feel small by asking me ignorant questions but tonight a beautiful woman told me how beautiful I am and how if she was me she would keep it like this. I told her how sometimes I feel small and I shared with her a comment someone said not long before we talked. Either way it was refreshing to hear a genuine compliment because my heart needed to hear it
Peace, love and HEALTHY HAIR
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